What annoys you the most and how do you handle it
Alright, Joyce. I just have to be honest today this candid conversation is really just for me, so I want to talk to you about this. There are things in all of our lives that just really annoy us, certain things that just really grate on us, but there are better ways to handle them than I often do. So you know when when I learned a few things I find out that I can handle this um and then I slide back into that pit of being so annoyed again, so I would love to hear. What are some of the things that really annoy you? What are some of the annoyances that you deal with and how do you respond in a more positive way? Oh ginger, there’s nothing that annoys me I’ve overcome and see I’m instantly annoyed. Now now you’re annoyed that I’m not annoyed. Um Okay well we’ll just we’ll just have some fun with this. Probably the thing that annoys me the most is people who don’t do what they say they’re gonna do and who don’t communicate but they’re not gonna do it. I can’t tell you how often like at our house we’ll have a repairman that’s supposed to be coming at a certain time to do something and they don’t show up and they don’t call and here you stayed home. I mean you’ve rearranged your life and today that just happens way way way too often and everybody’s excuses. Always. I’m sorry I got busy. Well then you shouldn’t be taking more business than what you can handle and handle it with integrity and integrity. that’s the big word, right? And like you said, just communicate it, just give us a call and let us know, give me a call, let me know, you know, today, I think greed really causes most people to take on more than what they can handled properly and you know, we love our doctors, but even, I mean thankfully I’m not dealing with anybody like that now, but in the past, there have been times when I’ve, there was one doctor that I used to go to a long time ago and it would be anywhere from two, two hours, 45 minutes was like a a small, a small weight, you know why why takes, why not leave a few minutes in between appointments? So if you go over a little bit yeah. You know, it’s like do unto others as you would have them do unto you. So so let me ask you then you’re sitting in that waiting room and you are so annoyed because you’ve been there over two hours and it is going to happen, it is going to happen. So how do you handle that annoyance in a better way and get through it? Well, I usually have to repent after after, I’ve not handled it good. And really the answer I think comes down to I’m just gonna have to get a different provider, You know, I’m not gonna I’m not gonna keep dealing with this and I’ve I’ve kind of come to that point with business people. It’s like if that’s the way you do business then I don’t I don’t want to do that because I’m just inviting the devil to aggravate me all the time. Not obviously if somebody can’t help it, you know then we need to be gracious and we need to walk in the fruit of the spirit and we always need to walk in the fruit of the spirit. But you know walking in the fruit of the spirit doesn’t mean you let people take advantage of you all the time. And of course I am a communicator. And so usually if we’re strong in an area it really frustrates us if somebody else is weak in that area, so I have to keep that in mind. I’m a bottom line person. So it’s like if I ask you a question, please give me the answer the shortest way you can. You know, I only want to know the bottom line. Did you get it fixed? Not you know how you fixed it and you know where you had to go to fix it and you know and so I have a tendency to get annoyed with people that are extremely detailed and that’s one that I have to work on and take responsibility for because they can’t help being detailed anymore than I can help. Like my husband is real detailed and so if he’ll start to tell me about a movie, I watched this movie last night and I just feel like it takes forever for him to tell me what was the movie about? He was seeing the whole movie by the time the conversation is over. So you know, God puts us with people that are not like us for the purpose of giving us practice on this fruit of the Fruit of the spirit. Another 30. Another thing that annoys me are little nit picky continuous noises. And so I was recently somewhere writing for a couple of weeks and the part went out in the refrigerator. They couldn’t get the part for a while. And so about every two minutes the refrigerator would go click click click. Mhm. Two more minutes click click click. And I was it was it was not it wasn’t that far away from where I was writing. And so I got to go, okay Lord, somehow or another, you’re gonna have to help me just ignore this and not pay attention to it. So what about you? What annoys you? Uh So one of the things that I find really difficult and similar to some of the things that you’ve been talking about. But I like to make excuses for this annoyance. But I’m such, I’m such a justice person, right? I I want people to do what’s right and to do what’s fair. And so when I believe something isn’t right and fair. Then my instant reaction is to fight back and I’m very annoyed at the circumstances. Exactly. And so the bad thing of all of that is then I often respond in a way that is, you know, not helping the situation. It’s, it’s more of an argument than a de escalation or whatever. So that’s one of those things, like for instance, if something says that it should be on sale, it should be on sale and if I go up, exactly, if I go up and, and it’s, it’s not really on sale, the sign was in the wrong place or whatever, then I don’t do well with that. Now I have learned a lot and I’ve come a long way over the years because I do understand that people move signs and mistakes happen. So like you said, I just, I just have to pray and breathe first and take a take a beat. Remember who we represent the moment representing, jesus. Exactly, Exactly. And that, I mean, this is something that my daughters will still talk about because I embarrassed them so many times when they were little. Um, so I’m, I really am over over that I’m so much better with that. But there are still those things when, when something’s not right, when someone doesn’t treat someone else the way that they should um, when someone doesn’t follow certain things that I have a daughter, that’s one of those justice people and you know, she’s like, she wants everything to be fair and it’s just not just isn’t, I mean it just isn’t that you have to let that go and God is a god of justice and so he wants us to turn those things over to him and then he makes wrong things right. Something that annoys me is mean people, it annoys me so bad that there are certain tv shows that I liked the plot and I would enjoy the show, but if if one of the characters plays like this means sarcastic person, I just eventually I just can’t watch the show and I know that’s because my dad was like that and I just can’t I can’t handle it. It’s like just don’t be mean the world is mean enough without people being mean. I agree. So now what you just said though, we’ve talked a little bit before that recognizing where it stems from recognizing those triggers that that’s probably really helpful in handling some of those situations to be able to say no, I know why I’m reacting this way. All bad fruit has a root. Yeah. And if you can find the route, it can help you deal with the problem. But some of these things that we’re talking about, it’s like it’s not right, it’s not right for people to not show up for appointments, it’s not right for them not to communicate. And so since we can’t make them change, the only thing we can do is ask God to help us behave the right way. I’m sure jesus ran into and I mean he ran into injustice all the time time and and I’m sure those disciples were so annoying to him at times. Well yeah, you know, I mean he’s trying to tell them, he’s getting ready to go to Jerusalem and all the suffering is going to go through and they’re arguing about which one of them is the greatest. So well when you see, you know the patients that he had with them, so we do have to understand and then you know, there’s the factor too, if you’re a christian and you know like you and I, we’ve been christians for a long time, we’ve been in the word for a long time. And so you know, we may be able to handle ourselves differently than maybe somebody who’s only been saved for a week. And so we have to have understanding of where people are coming from and you know where they’re at. And so really, and I guess the bottom line we have to admit is no matter what somebody does, it doesn’t give us a right to do the wrong thing, two wrongs never make it right. So God always expects us to, what did he say, love your enemies, pray for those who mistreat you and treat you unjustly. And so, but we all do have things that annoy us and uh so there you have it, you have my, I appreciate it, Open conversation about what annoys me. I love it. And I’ll actually take all the help I can get because you’re right. It it can be as big as someone mistreating someone else or as small as and reoccurring noise that we cannot get away from. But how we react to it is up to us. But I will say this, there’s not nearly as many things that annoy me as there used to be. So so thank God, promising I’m not where I need to be but I’m not where I used to be. I’m making progress. Thank you Joyce. I appreciate it.