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Welcome to treasures in the Storm. I’m Cindy schmidler and today I’m excited we’re gonna be talking about a serious topic. I know a lot of people struggle with its title this God in infertility and it’s not just infertility but it’s in everything. So what you don’t you don’t have to be going through infertility today too uh to really get so much out of this. So I’m gonna ask you to get your bibles and pen and paper because we’re going to go to work together. We’re going to dig in the scriptures, what God says about these things and we’re going to be applying it. And if it’s not for you today, maybe you have a friend who really needs to hear this message. I’m gonna pray for us and we’ll dig in. I’ll also give testimony of What this looks like in our lives. So let me begin by praying for us differently. Father Lord, you are lord of all. You are the God who creates every cell of our bodies. You’re the one who knew us before we were born Lord, you say in your word and so you know what you’re doing when it comes to infertility Lord. It’s already in your book. You say in someone 39 you say just bow your head because I got you covered. And so father, we need to hear that today. We need to trust you more with what you have going on in our lives. And so I pray for myself and my audience today Lord that you would make yourself shine upon us that you that we could hear you speak today. And as we read your word, Will you speak deep into our hearts, especially my audience. That’s hearts are um aching today, Lord, will you please get into their hearts Lord and put that massaging appointment of oil of um hope in them as only you can. And we trust you for that in jesus name. So today we’re gonna look at, we’re gonna start out and again, one of my favorite versus proverbs 16 9. If you haven’t seen write it down, we make our plans. But it is God who directs our steps. So we have to keep that in the forefront of our minds. When we’re going through situations like this, I think about Sarah and Abraham, if you remember the story of God telling Abraham and Sarah that you are going to be the father of many nations and that I am going to create them through Sarah your wife and she is going to conceive and have a child. Well, when God told Abraham and Sarah this, they were in there. He was 100 100 years old and she was in her nineties. And so that is a pretty unbelievable um thing to think about. In fact, let’s just read what it says. Come with me to genesis chapter 17 versus 15 to 19 we’re gonna look at. So in 15, it says God also said to Abraham as for Seri your wife, you are no longer to call her. Sorry, her name will be Sarah. I will bless her. And I will surely give you a son by her. I will bless her. So that she will become the mother of many nations. Kings of peoples will come from her. Abraham fell face down and laughed and said to himself, Will a son be born to a man 100 years old. Will Sarah bear a child at the age of 90. And Abraham said to God, if only Ishmael might live under your blessing. Ishmael was his other son, which we it’s Ishmael is the Sun. That because it was taking so long since God spoke to Abraham and Sarah to actually conceive a child. They decided that they would do it on their own. And their plan was to have the maid servant conceive a child. Her name was Hagar. Their plan was to have Hagar conceived a child and they’ll call that child the part of the promised seat. And so they did. They put this plan together. And I know there’s everything wrong with that plan. But they made their own plan and they went ahead and that’s what they did. Again. It was under God’s sovereignty. That plan. And Ishmael had became the father of nations to other nations. And so back to I felt a little like Sarah as I’m going through this and I’ll share some of that with you. So John and I had been married about 10 years now, maybe little bit less. And we had cancer behind us. You can hear about that in one of my other shows. And so I had had Hodgkin’s disease and because of that, I was not able to um conceive and I didn’t know it at the time. And so we were really excited about having Children because that cancer was behind us. And now we were looking at lives at like we were just like, what you would use the word normal, like normal people. And everybody our age was having Children and we got excited. We’re like, you know what? We can actually live a life now. And so let’s go do that. Let’s let’s plan on having Children. And so we did. And we soon found out that that wasn’t gonna happen for us. So I went to my doctor, I was very familiar with doctors by now and I went to my doctor and I said, look, we’re just not able. And so he gave me a special pill, take this um pill and then you’ll get pregnant. Like, okay, so we did that for six more months and nothing. And I just, I want to take a moment if you’re one of those people who are going through that at such a difficult thing to go through and I want to, I want you to know I know what that’s like all those charts and watching a population and all of that. I know what that’s all about and my heart goes out to you. And I remind myself often now being on the other side and the bible says comfort, others with the comfort that you have received. And so I want to comfort you having received comfort that God won’t let you go. We just have to get content in where we are. And I know that’s a difficult thing. And so I’m with you in that and I want you to know that I am praying for you. I’m praying. And God has this special people praying for you right now. And he has he has plans to give you your heart’s desire in what he sees as best. Because honestly, you don’t want your own heart’s desire because you don’t know tomorrow, you want God who knows tomorrow to give you your heart’s desire. And so after those six months we thought my doctor said I’m going to send you to an infertility specialist. We’re like, okay. And we were hungry to have a child. We we had got on the I must have a baby band way again. You can read about that in my book, tragedy turned upside down, have a whole chapter on that bandwagon. And I um so john and I were very excited. We’re like, we’re going to make this happen and we’re determined to make this happen. Like, like we could do it. Like we could make it happen and but we did. We believed we believed and we kept going on that. And so the infertility specialist was the next step for us. And so we went in and they said they did a little surgery on me and they said, oh Cindy all of your eggs are gone. The chemotherapy that you had that saved your life actually killed all of your eggs. So you will not be able to have Children. And that’s devastating if you have been there. That’s a devastating thing to hear. Although they have so many things out there now and one of the things they propose to us is to um use a donor egg. So what will happen at these infertility clinics as women will donate AIDS and they you can put them together in this case with john sperm and in a Petri dish you will create a baby. And we’re like okay, we we just had no idea what we were doing or what our thoughts were about it all. We just wanted to have a baby. That was our goal was to have a baby. And so we’re pursuing all the avenue. And so they we picked a woman who was something like us to go do this special infertility and they went ahead and did the thing that they do and it turned out that no eggs fertilized and we’re so um grateful because for us because we were getting uncomfortable with this in our life. We we started thinking we’re not sure if this is the way that we should be going. I just want to take a moment here and stop. If you’ve had a child, that way I would praise God because that is God’s will. For you, That child that you have is God’s will for you. The bible tells us right. First, Thessalonians 5 18 were to get thanks in these circumstances, God is orchestrating them. And so just rejoice in that for john and I, God decided that we were not gonna have. He had another plan. We didn’t know it though. We didn’t know we were, you know, we’re directing our own plans as proverbs 16 9 says we make our plans, but God is directing the steps. We didn’t know what was going on behind the scenes. We didn’t know about all those circumstances that are yet to come. And so I remember the friend of mine telling me that if it hasn’t happened yet, it’s just not yet. It’s just not yet. And so keep your mind on the not yet. And be content where you are. The bible says that we need to be content in all things. That’s Godliness. Godliness plus contentment. The bible says is great gain so that we want great game, don’t we? And I think to myself. Um I was feeling like Sarah was feeling weary that the plan wasn’t working and now this wasn’t working and just weary with the whole thing and weary with making my own plan. Much like Sarah made her own plan. I was weary making my own plan. And and and I think about how Sarah manipulated what God had for her through this. And I don’t want to do that because God knows what’s best. He knows what’s best. I don’t know what’s best. He’s the God of the 100 billion Galaxies, the one who created me before I was born. He fashioned me and knew me and created me. I don’t want to be outside of whatever that is why, because it’s so worth it. I always tell myself being in the center of God’s will. There’s no happier, more peaceful place that you could be and that’s what I want. So, I strive for that. But then I get on these treadmills and this was a treadmill of the baby for me. And let me see here where we’re going with this. Oh, I love this. So, I’m going to read psalm 1 39. It’s so good Someone 39. And I would encourage you. I’ve started, I’ve been memorizing scripture over the years and this is a great one to memorize. And the thing about memorizing scripture is you you get a moment to put voice inflection on different words and it means so much more when you can do that. So I’m going to give you an example of that. And then it talks about in the sun’s how important it is to meditate. That’s a meditating on scripture. It’s like it’s sweeter than honey from the honeycomb. The bible says. So for example, you have searched me Lord and you know me. And so I would go on my walks and I’d say, you Lord have searched me and you know me. You have searched me and you know me. And as I do that each each voice inflection word becomes makes that scripture so much more to me. Let me read this 1- six. You have searched me Lord. And you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise, you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down. You are familiar with all of my ways. Before a word is on my tongue. You Lord know it completely. You hem me in behind and before and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me too lofty for me to attain. So just think about that as we think about infertility. So God, he knows he already knows what’s going on. He knows what we’re thinking. He’s familiar with all of it. He’s even familiar with what I’m thinking and what I’m about to say. It’s It’s it sits with him and how much better when it sits with him. And then it goes on in verse 13. These are some of my favorite versus it says for you created my innermost being. And I think of infertility and those Children. You created my innermost being. You knit me together in my mother’s room. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made today audience. Do you know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God’s Almighty hand? Let’s take that in. Let’s take that in. It goes on to say your works are wonderful. I know that full well my frame was not hidden from you when I was made in that secret place when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body. All of the days ordained for me were written in your book, Lord before one of them came to the I actually have little notes here. If you’re writing your bible, I write little notes when God gives me a word from his word and it reminds me and I can go back and it gives me a smooth stone of remembrance. Like the bible talks about of where he’s taking care of me in a situation. And he’s given me a special word about something. And so this is some of my favorite versus so, I would love for you to highlight this to write it in the front of your bible when you’re struggling that you can go there, especially if you’re struggling with infertility right now. I want you to know based on the scripture that God has your life and my life already pre planned out. Do you know that your life and my life are already pre planned out. And I hope that gives you some calmness today, some peace today. Some confidence and strength. You might need some of that, especially in the hard things. I don’t know what his plan for you is. An infertility. I don’t know if you’re gonna end up getting pregnant. I don’t know if you’re gonna end up adopting, maybe you’re not even interested in that right now. I don’t know. You may end up fostering God knows and he will move your heart to. Exactly. It’s already written in the book. He said, right, your life, your Children are already written in his book. How comforting we don’t want to be like Sarah or like me to go ahead of what his plan maybe for us. Once I got off the um I call it the baby treadmill of, I must have it, I must have a baby or whatever your treadmill we can have a treadmill of, I need to be married or I need to be divorced whatever it is, We get on these treadmills and we need to take about four steps back and lift our eyes to the heavens where help comes from. And as God to speak to us about what it is that he wants for us. That very best thing that he wants and he’s carrying us through. Even when we can’t feel him, he’s carrying us. Even when we can’t feel him and so today I want us to pray, I want to ask him to help help you feel how he’s caring for you and physically caring you today. And so Lord I just ask my audience today father those who are really struggling that you would put your loving arms around them. Lord, can you bring somebody when you’re ministering angels to come on love on these people, will you give them the confidence that they need today to trust you with this painful thing And Lord, if they need to let go of something that they are grabbing hold of like I did, will you help them As only you can Lord help them to let go and hold those hands wide open to receive the better Yes that you have for them God and we’re gonna trust you with all of that remind them often of these scriptures and how you knit them together in their mother’s room and all of their days are already written in the book before one of them came to be let that be a joyous thing for them today. Greater than the heartache that they’re feeling and we pray that in jesus name. Thank you for joining me today. I look forward to seeing you next time. Have a great day. Hello, my name is Cindy schmidle er and I have something very special that I want to share with you today. 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