Scripture Passage: Psalm 128
It is good to desire contentment for our families; but money can’t buy it, because a content person doesn’t look to circumstances to find peace.
Contentment is an inner sufficiency that keeps us at peace despite outward circumstances.
Psalm 128 describes a family that cultivates contentment in the home: “Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord” (Psalm 128:4).
We must first remember what destroys family contentment, which is covetousness. In Romans 7:7, the Apostle Paul confesses, “I would not have known sin except through the law. For I would not have known covetousness unless the law had said, ‘You shall not covet.’”
Covetousness is a matter of the heart; it is a deceptive, debasing, and destructive sin. One may not realize he has a wicked heart until it reveals itself through covetous desires. Discontent almost always leads to the sin of idolatry because a dissatisfied spirit desires riches and happiness more than it desires God.
Adrian Rogers says, “A discontented man is never rich, and a contented man is always rich. Somebody who is not content with what he has will not be content with what he would have, and to whom little is not enough, nothing is enough.”
We must remember what defines family contentment, first being our faith: “Blessed is every one who fears the Lord, who walks in His ways” (Psalm 128:1).
Contentment is also defined by our fellowship with one another: “Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the very heart of your house, your children like olive plants all around your table” (Psalm 128:3). A family that is content is a family that is simply fed, both physically and spiritually. “When you eat the labor of your hands, you shall be happy, and it shall be well with you” (Psalm 128:2).
Finally, we must remember what develops family contentment. When we learn to trust God and thank Him for what He has provided, we will learn to love people rather than covet things and we will learn to give generously.
May we come to know Psalm 128:5 for ourselves: “The Lord bless you out of Zion, And may you see the good of Jerusalem all the days of your life.”
Are you cultivating contentment in your home? Pray and ask God to give you a spirit of gratitude and to root out any covetousness from your heart.
listen to me. And don’t forget this. A discontented man is never rich and a contented man is always rich. A discontented man. I don’t care how much he has. He’s never rich. A contented man is always rich and somebody who is not content with what he has will not be content with what he would have and to whom little is not enough. Nothing is enough. That’s right. Pastor teacher and author Adrian Rogers was a husband of 54 years. He was also a father, a grandfather and a great grandfather who loved to counsel couples, both young and old, using biblical principles for building their homes this month on love worth finding, we will be sharing some of those principles with you have your bibles ready and join us as we learn how to build our marriages, our families and our homes. And if this message is an encouragement to you, remember, you can stream this message again and download Pastor Rogers outline notes and other resources to go along with this message all at L WF dot org. Now, let’s join Adrian Rogers. Would you take God’s word and find please psalm 128. You’re familiar with the songs, you know, that’s one of the best songs in the bible and the family, but there’s something that wars against the family and it is a spirit of discontent discontent. I’m going to talk to you today about how to cultivate contentment in your home cultivating contentment. Well, we have a picture of a contented family here in uh, som 128 and they’re only six short verses. Let’s read them all. Blessed is everyone that fears the Lord that walk in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands. Happy shalt thou be. And it should be well with thee. My wife should be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house. Bye Children like olive plants around about the table. Behold that thus shall the man be blessed, that fear The Lord. The Lord shall bless thee out of Zion. Thou shalt! See the good of Jerusalem all the days of my life. Ye thou shalt see thy Children’s Children and peace upon Israel. Well, we’re talking about content. What is contentment May I give you a definition of content? Contentment. Here it is is an inner sufficiency that keeps us at peace in spite of outward circumstances. Content and inner sufficiency that keeps us at peace in spite of outward circumstances. Actually, in the new testament, the word contentment has the idea of being self contained. Remember paul said when he was in that flip in jail, I have learned in whatsoever state I am there with to be content. The idea actually means I’m self contained. I don’t have to look at circumstances to find my peace. When the space shuttle goes up, they put everything on board that people are gonna need because there’s no 7 11 in the neighborhood up there. It is self contained. It has everything on board. Now, a christian, a person who has the Lord, jesus christ and his or her heart has that contentment. That self containment. Now let me say this about contentment. However, contentment is not complacency, it is not being laid back, it is not being self satisfied. Many of us need to get busy. There’s so much room for improvement. There is so much more that we could be should be. And and contentment does not mean learning to do without possessions only. You can have possessions and be content. You can not have possessions and be content. Remember what the Apostle paul said, I have learned in whatsoever state I am. There would be content. I’ve learned to bound and there’s nothing wrong with the boundary friend. If you’re bounding today, If you’ve got plenty, I’m so grateful for you, that’s wonderful. But just be content. I’ve learned what serviced. I’ve learned to abound. I have learned to base, but I have learned in whatsoever state I am good or bad, rich or poor. I have learned to be content. Now. The bible is not against your having things. As a matter of fact, the bible says it is the Lord thy God that gives the power to get wealth. The bible says God takes pleasure in the prosperity of a certain and every good gift and every perfect gift comes down from above from the Father of Lights, with whom there is no variable nous the Shadow Attorney. So it doesn’t take poverty to learn contentment. It doesn’t take riches to learn contentment. But We must learn contentment. Remember, in that passage of scripture in Philippians chapter four verse 11 Paul says for I have learned in whatsoever state I am there with to be content. No. All right, may I give you three things that you need to learn if you’d have family contentment? Because friend, listen to me now. It is not contentment at home. You’ve got industrial strength problem. I mean, the devil had rather hurt you at home than anyplace else, because if you heard at home, you just heard all over. And if your home, as I say, it’s a swamp of discontent, you have got real problems. Number one, let’s learn what destroys family content. What destroys family contentment. Now, we read psalm 1 28 and it’s an obvious picture of contentment. But let’s take another verse and lay down alongside of it. And that would be exodus. Chapter 20 and verse 17 The bible says they’re in the 10 commandments, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house. Thou shall not covet my neighbors. Why? Nor his manservant Nor his maidservant, nor his ox nor his Aston or anything that is thy neighbor’s now here in the 10 commandments. The last of these 10 is thou shalt not cabin. It’s a very interesting commandment. Before I look at that for just a moment. Let me say this. That the 10 commandments were given primarily to the family. Did you know that God gave the 10 commandments? And he said, now, dad’s teach these to your sons and grandsons, that you’ll have a happy family. And God gives all of these nine laws for living. And then God sums it up with the last one thou shalt not covet. Now, why did God put that last? Because it sums up all of the others. All of the other commandments deal with actions. But this last one deals with attitude. All of the others deal with deeds. But this last one deals with desire. What’s in your heart? Covetousness? What is covetousness? Well, we told you what the contentment is, Covetousness is unlawful desire. That comes out of discontent 1st, Timothy Chapter six. And let’s begin reading verse six. Now, now he’s talking about contentment. Now, listen to it now. But Godliness with contentment is great game. That’s really the bottom line of all that I have to say today. But Godliness with contentment is great gain, for we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. Somebody said you never saw a hearse with a u haul behind it and having food and Raymond, that’s just something to eat and something to wear. Let us there with be content. That’s all you have to have, that’s all you have to have. You can’t go around naked and you got to eat, jesus didn’t even have? He said, Foxes have holes and birds have nests. I don’t have a place to lay my head. But he wasn’t discontent having food And clothing, let us there would be content. But now watch this verse nine. But they that will be rich, fall into temptation and a snare and many foolish and hurtful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition for the love of money is the root of all evil, which while some coveted after there’s our word, they have aired from the face and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. Now that doesn’t say that they are rich, the bible is not against riches. Abraham was rich. David was rich. Solomon was rich, joseph of Arimathea was rich, but it says they that will be rich. What does that mean? It means that is their dogged determination. That is what I want. I have set my course to be rich when you do that. You’re living on dangerous ground. Ever so often a man speaking in a university or high school will give a baccalaureate speech or whatever and he’ll give this advice trying to get the kids to be ambitious and he’ll say something like this. Now, young people make all the money, you can just so you make it Honestly, that sounds like good advice. That’s terrible advice. Why? Because nobody has a right to make all the money he can because if you’re making all the money, you can, you’re going to be making money when you ought to be doing something else, you’re gonna be making money, we ought to be spending time with your wife and family. You’re gonna be making money when you ought to be sleeping. You’re gonna be making money. We ought to be soul winning. You’re gonna be making money when you ought to be worshiping. Yeah, there are a lot of people who are making all the money that they can and when they’re making all the money that they can, what are they doing? They’re putting things first. And when you put things first, you know what that is? It’s idolatry. Anything you love more, serve more desire, more fear, more value, more than God is an idol. Now, folks, when when you are guilty of idolatry, you are guilty of something terrible. Listen, jesus said in luke, chapter 16 and verse 13 No man, no, no servant can serve two masters. Well, that’s wrong. No servant can serve two masters for either. He will hate the one and love the other or else he will hold to the one and despise the other. And if you’re wondering what to masters he’s talking about, he said, you cannot serve God and mammon ma’am is just another word for things. And then jesus said in Matthew chapter six and verse 33 seek ye First, the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. God will not work in second place. When you put God in second place. That is idolatry. And that’s the reason the bible calls covetousness idolatry we have in God. We trust on our money, but we have me first written in their hearts. Now folks, this is what destroys family content. And that is covetousness, unlawful desire, not, not wrong to have things, but unlawful desire. A spirit of dissatisfaction. Number two, let’s think learn about what defines family contentment. We’ve talked about what destroys it. What defines family contentment. What is real family contentment? We’ll look in psalm 1 28. there are three things. Number one faith for the family Faith for the family. Look in Verse one blessed is everyone that fear of the Lord. That walking in his way the secret of satisfaction of true contentment is God himself to tell the man on the street that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and the secret of of satisfaction. He would laugh at you. That’s the last thing he would believe would give him satisfaction. But let me give you some verses and jot them down because hey folks, these are great for your Children. Family worship. These are great for you to put on your refrigerator doors. Uh, Hebrews chapter 13 verse five. Now, remember we’re talking about content. Listen to this. Let your conversation be without covetousness. This is hebrews 135. The word conversation really means behavior. Let your behavior be without covetousness and be content. Listen, be content with such things as you have for he hath said, that’s God. Now, I will never leave the nor forsake. All right, I’m telling you the first secret of family contentment is God himself. 2nd thing. Look at this solemn again, Not only faith for the family, but fellowship for the family. Look in verses two and 3 thou shalt eat the labor of thine hands. Happy shalt thou be and it shall be well with thee. Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house and thy Children like olive plants round about the table. Now, folks, that’s where it’s at your wife, your Children. The family fellowship right there. There she is. Uh clinging to you like a vine, fruitful luxuriant. There you are providing for the family eating the labor of your hands. There are your Children like olive plants, which are very valuable in the Middle East. Having that fellowship, folks, if people today who are foregoing having Children so they can have things with wake up and understand that Children don’t make a rich man poor. They make a poor man rich. Now, here’s the third thing. You need watch your you need faith for the family. You need fellowship for the family and you need food for the family. Look again at verse two thou shalt eat the labor of line hands and happy shall that be? It shall be well with thee. It’s amazing, isn’t he’s speaking here of the most simple things of life. He’s talking not about luxuries. He’s talking about necessities, Philippians four verse nine. My God shall supply all your need according to his riches and glory by christ jesus. Not all you agreed, but all you need. If you would be content, learn to enjoy the simple things of life, which are the best things We try to read when our grandchildren are present. A proverb in the morning. That’s one of the best family worships I know and uh proverbs. Chapter 15, verses 16 and 17 says this better is little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure with trouble. There with better is a dinner of herbs where love is just plain vegetables than a stalled ox filet mignon and hatred there with learn folks to let your home ring with love and laughter, conversation and fun and be content with the simpler things of life. I’m telling you these gadgets will not make you happy you take these kids. Their closet is crammed full of the latest styles. They’ve got a computer. They got every electronic gadgetry. They are have everything there to entertain them and what they say, No, I haven’t got anything to wear. I’m bored. Why? They have not learned to enjoy the very basic things you say? Well, I want my kids to have things I never had. That’s okay? I want my kids to have things My dad never gave me. Okay. But are you giving them the things your dad did give you? I mean the desire to work honesty, decency, learning to get along with these things, teach your kids uh that the necessities all it takes having food and clothing. Let’s be content. And I I would to God that we get this in our hearts. Now, here’s the third and final thing I’ve talked about what destroys family content. I’ve talked about what defines family contentment of the family faith, the family fellowship and the family food. It’s just just so simple, so simple. Now, here is a friend. What develops family content. Uh in this song, we can find the same thing. Remember that Paul said that contentment must be learned, he said in Philippians four verse 11. I have learned, I have learned in whatsoever state I am there with to be content. And again, let me remind you of the definition of contentment. It is an inner sufficiency that keeps us at peace in spite of outward circumstances. Now four simple things. Here they are. Four things you can learn. Number one, learn to trust God, Look again in verse one, Blessed is everyone that fear the Lord. If you don’t do that, you’re never going to be content. Godliness with contentment is great gain, learn to trust the Lord. Have you done that? They have faith for your family? Is your family a God centered family. No wonder your discontent U like a square peg in a round hole. Number two not only learn to trust, But number two learned to thank. Don’t be grumbly hateful. Be humbly grateful. God has been so good to you. Look in in verse three and four. Look at it again. My wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of the house, by Children like olive plants around about the table. Behold that thus shall the man be blessed. Oh, that’s it. Thank you Lord, for this food. Thank you Lord for my wife. Thank you Lord for my Children. I am a blessed man. Families need to learn how to thank God. It would be good for you to get a family diary and right into the blessings of God. It would be good for you to sit down and rehearse with your Children day after day after day, the things that God has done for them learn to thank God. Number one, Learn to Trust. Number two, learn to thank. Number three, learn to love. Look in verses five and six of this son, The Lord shall bless thee out of Zion. And thou shalt see the good of Jerusalem all the days of my life. It’s not just simply for your own family. Lift up your eyes. Look at others. Look at this city, look at people who are in need and learn to love. Do you know what kept this person is a covetous person is a person who loves things rather than people. Do you know what a contented person is contented person is a person who loves people rather than things. You cannot be covetous and love people and you cannot love people and the cactus learn to trust, learn to think, learn to love and learn to give, learn to give if you want family contentment. Let your family learn to give. Years ago, I shared with your story, I’m gonna share with your game because it fits so perfectly right here. A congressman told this story, He told it to his past. He said, I took my son to Mcdonald’s, we’re gonna have some father son fellowship, you know how we all dream of that. And he said, my son wanted a large order of fries and he got this large order of fries and we sat down, father and son to have some fellowship and I sat there across from him and looked at that large order of fries and they smell so good. I thought I’d have a couple. So I reached out my hand to get a couple of french fries and my son put his hand on my hand and said, hey, those are mine. He said, I thought to myself, my son has a problem, a real problem. And it just flew all over me And I got to thinking, number one doesn’t he know who bought those fries and gave them to him and doesn’t he know That if I wanted to, I could buy him more fries, I could go up there and order 20 orders of fries and bury him in french fries. And doesn’t he know if I wanted to, I could take those away from him that he already has if I wanted to. And doesn’t he know that if I wanted some french fries for myself, I could go buy them for myself, I’ve got the money to do that and I could go to another table and eat them all by myself. Doesn’t he know that I’m trying to have fellowship with him? And he said, before I could tell the story more time than I could think. God spoke to my heart and said, my son, that’s the way you are. Sometimes I have given you blessings. And when I asked for a part of that blessing, he said, Hey, that’s mine. And God said, son, don’t you know that I could take that whole thing from you if I wanted to. And don’t you know if God, if I wanted to, I could give you more and don’t you know that I don’t need that I and God anything. I want the earth is mine and the fullness thereof and don’t you know, but I was wanting to have some fellowship with you old friend, may God have mercy upon the spirit of greed, that’s in our hearts. Understanding that all that we have has come from God and families need to learn to trust to thank to love and to give. And if you have a contented home, I’m telling you, you are blessed indeed. And if you don’t I don’t care what else you have read this psalm over again and let it come into your heart. Heads about eyes are closed, while heads about an eyes are closed. Let me tell you that Godliness with contentment is great gain. You’ve got to have God. That’s where it begins. Blessed is the man that fears the Lord. Blessed is the woman, the boy, the girl that fears the Lord. The fear of the Lord doesn’t mean slavish dread. It means reverence and love and all for almighty God. If you’re not certain that you’re saved, would you like to invite jesus into your heart Now, Are you willing to humble yourself before him? Are you willing to lay aside your self righteousness, acknowledge your sin, willing to lay aside any ability that you have to justify yourself? Just believe on him Because there’s no other way you can be saved. Apart from faith in the Lord jesus, the bible says. Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God. Isn’t that what you want? Peace with God. Then put your faith where God put your sins on the Lord jesus, pray a prayer like this, Oh God, I’m a sinner and I’m lost. My sin deserves judgment. But I want mercy, I need to be saved. Thank you jesus for dying for me. Thank you for paying my sin debt with your blood on the cross. I love you for that. Lord jesus. I turn away from self sufficiency and I turned from this sin that that’s so destroys me and I turned Lord jesus by faith to you. I just opened my heart like a child. Come into my life, forgive my sins, take control of my life and begin now to make me the person you want me to be. Thank you chief. Give me the courage to make it in your name. I put amen. Well, amen what these have done here in this beautiful worship center. I trust that many of you are doing that. You have said. Lord jesus come into my heart, forgive my sin and save me. The wonderful truth of the gospel is the bible says, for whomsoever shall call upon, the name of the Lord shall be saved. And so who are you are or where you are doesn’t make all that much difference. It doesn’t really make any difference. If you call on jesus and say, Lord jesus, save me. I trust you’ll do it. And if you do write to us and let us know, we’ll send you some literature to help you to get started in your christian life. 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