Living at Peace with Loss
Empty. Angry. Alone. If you’ve endured a loss, you know these feelings. You know how grief rips through your heart, making you feel like life will never be the same. Truthfully, it won’t be. Time won’t erase all your pain. You won’t ever slip back into your old routine. When you experience a loss, your life is forever changed. Your “normal” vanishes. But that doesn’t mean hope is lost.
Things may never get back to normal, but eventually you will settle into a “new normal” −you’ll develop a new routine, a new mindset. Your pain will ease, and your heart will begin to heal. That may seem impossible now, but God has made you to be resilient. He created you to function and grow in a world that constantly changes. He knows you. He knows your heart. And He has a perfect plan for your life that cannot be destroyed by any amount of sorrow. Lean on Him − the God of All Comfort − to lead you out of loss and into new life.
Steps to Letting Go
- Talk about the history you have shared with that which is lost. Acknowledge that history as a permanent part of your past but no longer a part of your present.
- Express any unfinished business regarding the past and resolve any remaining issues or feelings (such as regrets, resentments, grievances, or guilt), emptying them out and bringing them to closure.
- Choose to forgive whatever offenses you may still be harboring and let go of any thoughts of revenge.
- Release the past to the past and commit to cease trying to make it a part of your present and your future. Trust these words …
“You will surely forget your trouble,
recalling it only as waters gone by.” (Job 11:16)